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Emoțiile de la examene sunt urâte
Îmi amintesc și acum săptămâna în care aveam de dat examenul pentru liceu. Nu eram foarte emoționată, fiind sigură pe mine. Toți cei din jurul meu, însă, îmi repetau continuu că trebuie să mă concentrez ca să intru la un liceu bun. Că trebuie să învăț acum ca să-mi fie mai ușor după aceea. Că dacă intru la un liceu slab îmi ratez viața… Numai d-astea…
Dragi părinți, știm și singuri cum să greșim, nu avem nevoie să ne învățați
Dar până la urmă, de ce am avut atâtea emoții? Din cauza tuturor celor care doreau să mă “încurajeze”, normal. Așa se încurajează un copil? Zicându-i că “trebuie” să fie cel mai bun ca să nu pățească ceva rău pe viitor? Eu dacă aș avea un copil, i-aș zice: “Să ai încredere în tine, tu știi tot, tu poți face orice, tu poți obține orice. Lasă emoțiile, rămâi concentrat și vei reuși!”.
Emoțiile de la examene sunt urâte. Mai ales pentru că ne sunt băgate în subconștient chiar de cei din jurul nostru. După ce că noi oricum suntem nesiguri, că la vârsta asta încă nu știm ce vrem, ne mai ajută și părinții să ne speriem de viață.
Ai încredere în tine, tu știi tot, tu poți face orice, tu poți obține orice
Așa că, “Dragi părinți, știm și singuri cum să greșim, nu avem nevoie să ne învățați”. Folosind negații gen “NU vei face nimic cu viața ta”, în subconștient, noi interpretăm diferit și ne descurajăm. Susțineți-vă copiii cu afirmații pozitive!
Exams emotions are ugly
I still remember the week with the exams for high school. I was not very nervous, being sure of myself. All around me continually repeated that I need to focus on getting into a good school. That I should learn now to be easier for me afterwards. That a bad high school mean a bad life…
Dear parents, we know ourselves how to make mistakes, we don’t need to learn from you
But, in the end, why I had so many emotions? Because of all those who wanted to “encourage” me, of course. This is how you encourage a child? Saying to him that he “must” be the best to do not get hurt badly in the future? If I had a child, I’d say to him: „be confident in yourself, you know everything, you can do anything, you can achieve anything. Let emotions go, stay focused and you will succeed”.
Exams emotions are ugly. Especially because of all around us who put them, unintentionally, into our subconscious. At this age, we still don’t know what we want, so we are uncertain. And our parents help us only to fear life.
Be confident in yourself, you know everything, you can do anything, you can achieve anything
So, dear parents, we know ourselves how to make mistakes, we don’t need to learn from you. Using negations, like “you will do nothing with your life”, subconsciously we interpret differently and discouraged. So, support your children with positive affirmations!
So much pressure is put on us by others when we are so young. But, we learn, as we get older, not to do the same to others we love
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Yes, indeed. Thanks for following me and reading my posts, Jane
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Good luck with your exam!
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Good philosophy, Monica
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Thanks, Derrick!
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In the past, I was nervous and afraid if I failed in final exams. But for now, I think that we must do the best. So, we can reach our goal and make success in life. 🙂
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Pressure comes from all sides!!! Stable mind and confidence will overcome it!!!
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Sometimes the struggle with parents is very hard. I know they want me to be well, but they have to understand that I am no longer a child
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It can’t be avoided because we are part of them 🙂 So it’s a bliss when we think of it when we are in same situation. Parents always see innocence in child even though we are grown!!! how lucky to be considered as children even though we are grown 🙂
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I know that. My dad tell me that all the time. He says that even I will be 50 for him I will be forever his baby 🙂
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Exactly True and we follow the same as a parents!!!
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that is so true!
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Good luck to you, Mon! Everybody went through it and you will do, surely, with best possible results! You seem to be a very goal-oriented person who knows what she needs from life, so I have not doubts that you will do it great! Crossing fingers for good luck! I would like to tell that you look great in these pictures, you are a very pretty girl!
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That’s very sweet of you to say that, Ann! I appreciate your words and your support. You are such a good friend, Ann
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I so agree with this. Obviously, they want you to do the best that you can and want a bright future for you but the way parents and others go about this, though well meaning, often has a negative effect. I just finished reading a book that talks about some of this.
I hated exams for this very reason. If I get an exam, I try to hack it. Hacking is not learning. I work with a tutor to learn Spanish. She asked if I wanted an exam to show how much I learnt. I declined. I know how much I’ve learnt. I told her that if she wants to really test me, just keep speaking less English each session and using dialogue to make sure I’ve not forgotten things I learnt before. She does this and it keeps me learning and reviewing…no hacking.
Good post, Monica. Parents and teachers should read it.
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I know my father did it. He’s the man who really understand me. He tries to do not push me, but sometimes I feel the pressure even from him. Maybe it’s normal.
What you’ve done with your Spanish teacher sounds cool. I think it’s better than an exam.
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Me too. And luckily here I have a choice. It’s good you realize your father means well. Saying the right thing is not always so easy. Cheers. 🤔
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I’m sure of that.
Cheers!
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good luck 😉
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Many thanks 🙂
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If it’s u in the picture, then you have really beautiful eyes♡
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Aww… Thank you very much. That’s very sweet of you to say that! Yes, that’s me 😀
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And, about the post, well I’m fortunate enough that my parents don’t put undue pressure on me regarding anything, hehehe.. :p
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I am glad to hear that 🙂
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^_^ 😀
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Nice post…really true!
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Thank you very much! Glad you liked it 🙂
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you are most welcome! ❤ each and every post of yours are wonderful!
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Aww… That’s very sweet of you to say that! Thanks again ❤
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😊❤❤welcome
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I can understand this, and feel the same.Any comment, either positive or negative seeps deep in.a young mind, which is still so new to understanding the world and its challenges. Why not put the seeds of positive vibes from beginning only! Such individuals, when they grow up they become more self confident. 🙂
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I agree with you. My father always did it 🙂
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That is so nice! 🙂
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I know 🙂
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Ahhh….I know exactly how it’s feel…
Parents only want the best for their children, but at the end, it’s our decision, what we want 4 our future!!
-Ajaz
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Indeed, Ajaz.
Monica
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Cand am dat simularile pentru examenul ala, am luat nota mica si profa de romana mi-a citit compunerea facuta in ultimele 5 minute in fata clasei si toti au ras de mine, si am inceput sa plang. Si mi-am zis in gand ca o sa rada ei si la examen…m-am pus pe invatat si am iesit prima pe scoala, plus prima in clasa de la liceul la care imi doream sa intru. Sa mai rada ei de mine! :))
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Wow! Bravo! 🙂
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Wonderful post Monica. I have always told my two children to be themselves, to follow their dreams and to believe that anything is possible. ♥♡
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You’re like my dear father, Miriam 🙂
That’s why I love you ❤
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Oh, you touched my heart with that Monica. What a beautiful thing to say. Love you back. ♥♡
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amazing post. Children need to be always supported and loved but allowed to make mistakes and learn from them in their own way. They are all unique and individual with their own conscious reality creating their own stories and singing their own songs.
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Thank you for your kind words 🙂
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Oh yes, if a child has the confidence, he/she can go far. Fear will only breed that lack of confidence, unfortunately.
Great message Monica.
Have a great weekend.
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Thank you for your kind words, Stacy 🙂
Have a great weekend, too! ❤
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Exact ca tine, la fel ,părinți mei m-au încărcat cu emoți și descurajări ,dar nu am băgat în seamă, la anul am din nou examen ,mult mai greu dar sunt calmă ,am încredere în mine,toți trebuie să avem încredere în noi înșine
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Da, trebuie sa ne facem ca nu auzim. Bafta la anul! Dar pana atunci, sa ai o duminica frumoasa! 🙂
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Well said Monica, you put it beautifully.
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Many thanks, Josh 🙂
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Great thought Monica. True, these exams and the competition are ruthless, some parents rather than encouraging do end up making it difficult for the child. I always will tell my children to do what they can and like. 🙂 Very nice article. Much loves and hugs friend xx
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This is what my dad always did. Thank you, my friend 🙂
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Absolutely! I sometimes feel parents have forgotten how hard it is to be a student. They forget the anxieties and the difficulties. Nice post, Monica!
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You’re right, Theresa. They forget that some years ago they were students, too. Thank you for your words, my friend ❤
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Of course! It is unfortunate that many university professors forget this also.
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Indeed 🙂
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